Why do we do it?
Why do we feel the need to be perfect?
Perfect body, perfect hair, perfect make up, perfect career, perfect clothes, perfect home, perfect children, perfect life……..
We talk business during our yoga class. . We keep up with the latest fashion trends at work…..We take care of errands on our lunch break…..We clean the house and cook dinner while trying to pay attention to our children…..And we sleep while our husbands are waiting for us to tell them it is a good night to be intimate.
Why do we do this? Who are we doing everything for?
If you are single and you have a great career that affords you the luxury of pampering yourself – great!!…..But…..how do you expect to add a husband and children into the mix…..unless you give part of that lifestyle up?
Some of you say its no problem….I can do it all. I am woman. Hear me roar.
But I want you to be honest with yourself…..we all have to do it at some point in our life…..can anyone really do it ALL – and not fail at something?
A spin off of the Housewives of New York, Bethenny Ever After (Bravo Reality Program) aired the 1st show of the season last night. Even if you have never watched any of the Housewives series, Bethenny Frankel has made a name for herself with her low calorie cocktail line – The Skinny Margarita – which can be found on the shelves of every liquor store in the world. I believe that her company was bought for well over $100,000,000 dollars
Besides her margarita empire, she is a trained chef, has been on Dancing with the Stars, has been on the cover of Forbes Magazine (see above), is the only housewife from Bravo’s Housewives to have her own shoot off, is in perfect shape, looks amazing for her age, is bright, is funny, is extremely likable, is scheduled to have her own daytime talk show on network television, is married with a baby and can pretty much juggle everything.
Except for one thing.
Sex with her husband. (You can read more here: Bethenny Frankel Doesn’t Have Sex With Her Husband)
This is the one thing she cannot handle. In fact, last night’s episode had a scene where her husband, Jason, was negotiating sex into her routine and Bethenny reluctantly agreed to attempting to commit to two nights a week.
I am not deciding which path a person should take, nor am I deciding that Bethenny Frankel should make it her business to have sex with her husband….but what I am suggesting is that if you want to have it all and be perfect at it – like Bethenny (and many, many more women out there)…..you will have to part with something and accept that it may not be as perfect as you want it to be…..
……and if you are not careful about which part of your life you allow to fail….you may one day regret your decision.
If you choose to remain single and live it up without a man – you go girl! More power to you – as long as you are content with your choice.
If you choose to get married and have children and keep the busy, time consuming career that requires you to look perfect as well (which we all know takes time)….something is gonna have to give.
You will have to ask yourselves at some point……who are you doing all this for? There is just not enough hours in the day to do everything so you will eventually have to prioritize.
One more thing……just to clarify the title of my post…..
Last night, Bethenny basically bared her soul and admitted that relationships are always a problem for her and she doesn’t know what she should do about it. The focus of the entire episode was how her relationship with Jason, whom she was at one point (last year) head over heels in love with, seems to be suffering due to the hustle and bustle of her spectacularly busy life…..and despite Bethenny’s extraordinary success in life…..
…….she didn’t seem too happy about it.
P.S. Here are two other links to other great articles about multitasking that actually motivated me into writing this post:
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